The Shanty

The Shanty
where I grew up

Monday, October 25, 2010

What is this "love ya" crap about?

I find it interesting the fears we have in saying certain things. Some friends will never say “I love you” to each other…in any lingo. While a vast majority opt for “love ya” as their way of showing they love their friends. People might claim they’ve never thought about it before but I think they have. I think saying “love ya” is a conscious choice as opposed to “I love you”. Do you talk to your spouse that way? What about family members? It’s doubtful. I think people prefer a more tongue in cheek way of expressing themselves although I’m not really sure why. I mean, I guess “I love you” has been somewhat taboo for some time. I know growing up, friends never said it to each other in any form…at least not that I can remember. It’s a newer thing and with technology…you know texts and facebook pages…it’s easier to convey yourself without the embarrassment of face to face expressions. To say “I love you” means romantically or reserved for your family for many I think. Changing it to “love ya” is more of a friendly term that can be used on anyone without fear of rejection. It really is the same thing though isn’t it? After all “you” is what is getting changed, not “love”. Also the omission of “I” makes it less personal but again, the word “love” remains untouched.

I rarely say “love ya” unless maybe I feel like the person will think I’m weird to say I love them and less weirded out by referring to them in slang. All I know is that there are many different levels of love. I tend to love quickly…friends or otherwise. I might not know you that well or see you often but I probably do have a level of love for you. That doesn’t make me creepy though, haha. And it doesn’t mean that I romanticize about you either! If I feel that level of love for you, you’ll know it. Otherwise I mean it in a sincere but non-romantic way.

I don’t know…is it just me, or have others noticed the different ways to announce your love? What is your take on it?


  1. I know it might be weird to hear your friend or someone say Love ya, or I love you. I guess I'm one of those weird people! I try to say it to my family (regularly), maybe I "over" say it, but I want them to know that if that's the last time I see them, they know I love them. Same as with friends, relatives. I say "I love you" or "Love you", when I say bye, again, what if that's the last time I see them or them see me? My favorite cousin died after I graduated high school. I didn't get to say goodbye or tell him that I loved him. I never used to say "I love you" to anyone, not even my parents. But after that, I made an effort to tell people how I feel about them, whether they take it or not and feel weird, at least they knew I loved them or cared about them. That's the way I see it.

    :o) Just so you know...
    You've been a great friend to me and "I love you" for that! ;o)
    (and not in a romantical kind of way..haha)

  2. I think that the expression of our love for each other, in any lingo, language, or gesture, is a wonderful and much welcomed thing in this world. In fact, I would prefer to see more love for people we don't know very well, or at all, instead of reserving our compassion only to those we know well, or strangers who are in dire need of help. Those who end up in dire need would be far, far fewer if this were the case. We should come to terms with our own shortcomings, and understand that we are all a work in progress so that it is easier to accept other's shortcomings. Our tendency to think our own opinions are the only correct ones inhibits our ability to understand one another and have love even for people we disagree with. This is true love, and why being able to see through the really tough times with a partner forms the strongest relationships. But I'm getting rambly, so I'll leave it at this: love more, no matter how you express it, and the while world will be a better place.