The Shanty

The Shanty
where I grew up

Sunday, May 16, 2010

Offendinig vs. Disrespecting

There is definitely a difference between these two and I wish more people would realize this. Let me help you out…

It is true that it is nearly impossible to offend me. And I only say nearly because, although I can’t think of an example, I’m sure it can be done. This doesn’t stop people from trying though! In all honesty, I don’t actually think they set out trying to offend me but they do set out trying to say things that would be upsetting to the average individual testing me to see how I react. I can tell you that I will react the way I always do. You will not get a rise out of me like you were trying to do. What would be the point in that?

Sometimes things people say or do does hurt my feelings. Let me clarify. I am often appalled at how mean and disrespectful people are to me and my feelings for no reason other than to TRY to get a rise out of me…or to TRY to finally be the one to offend me. Just because my feelings get hurt does not me you have offended me. My feelings get hurt not by the content of what you said but by the complete disrespect you show towards me. If this doesn’t make sense let me give you an example:

Making comments about my past to people in my present.

I’m not even sure why anyone would do this but they do. Talking about the bad decisions I made while a kid doesn’t offend me though. What it does is completely disrespects me. Why would you say “Amy used to be a whore, haha”? The part that makes me angry is not that you exposed anything but that you didn’t have half the brain to consider how this might not be who I am any more. That without proper information to back that acquisition you really have no idea what you’re talking about. Labeling me a “whore” is not offensive. I understand why people have believed that to be true. Sharing specific examples to everyone about something I did many, many years ago is disrespectful though. What are you trying to prove? I will always admit to the things I have done.

I guess my point in this is to say “think before you speak!” You may think you’re being funny by trying so hard to get a rise out of me but all you’re doing is making yourself look like an ass. You will NOT get a rise out of me, you will NOT offend me, but you will however go down in my mind as someone who is disrespectful and someone not to trust. Congratulations!


  1. I found it's nearly impossible to offend me as well...believe your own beliefs and share them with me, whatever...we're all entitled right? We all have a past which is impossible to do anything about...the only recourse is to do better with our future. Well said, Miss Amy! ...and keep up the good work! ;0)

  2. you tellem harry

  3. I agree with what you said in this blog. I think there is a time and place for things to be said and to often people choose to take the attention off of them selves by blurting out the most shocking thing they can think of! I am one that trys to think of a persons feelings before I speak but some people are over sensitive and I don't always use the correct words. Believe me I try though!

  4. LMAO! But you are a whore!!!! That is the funny thing!!!