The Shanty

The Shanty
where I grew up

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

No Validation Required

Absence makes the heart grow fonder...or does it? Don’t they also say time heals all wounds? Well which is it?! Have you ever noticed that everything in life is two sided? We pick and choose which side to take depending on how it will benefit us at the time.

An Eye for an Eye vs. Thou Shall not Kill
No Good Deed Goes Unpunished vs. Karma
Rules are Meant to be Broken vs. You’ll get Yours

I don’t know…I could go on and on. And I’m sorry to burst your bubble of happiness and security but honestly sayings are just that. As humans we choose to remember those things we want to and block out the rest. Or if you’re me you tend to remember the bad things and struggle holding on to the good. Either way, there is both good and bad all around us and we tend to say whatever it is that soothes us at the time. Even if the very next time we might say the opposite if that’s what we need to hear.

I’m not writing this to say there is anything wrong with taking comfort in times of need. I guess what I’m saying is that instead of relying on bunk sayings we should just accept the fact that we are all more similar than we’d like to admit. That we all need words to help remind us that we are in fact human. That we need not make excuses when we are following our dreams and morals. We should just be allowed to be ourselves without the constant need of validation.


  1. And lucky for us, when we do need a little affirmation, the people who love us are there to give it. Follow that dream baby!!!