The Shanty

The Shanty
where I grew up

Monday, June 7, 2010

Turning Mean

What makes people turn mean? And when does it end?

I often hear about break ups and divorces and I’m just in complete amazement how people act towards one another sometimes. I just don’t get it! I can see not wanting to be best friends or anything like that but to turn mean and hateful?! How does this happen?!? How can you go from loving someone unconditionally for x amount of time to spending your time trying to make their life a living hell?!

It makes me sad to think there are that many immature people out there who can’t just accept the facts and keep their head held high and journey on the high road. Why must there be so much hatred and animosity? Break-ups should be good things. You both get to better your life and become happy again…what’s so bad about that?! I truly don’t get it. I would never behave in such a way that I hurt someone I once loved. I don’t understand what the point would be. I have no enemies in life and I have no desire to make any either. Whether or not they “screwed me over” I will not turn ugly.

I wish more people could see the good in situations and take the time to better themselves instead of dwelling on the past and blaming people for shit. Grow the fuck up and quit punishing people! I’ve been shit on a lot in my life but nothing makes me angrier than when people take a crap on my friends. What gives people the right to do this?! I chalk it up to ignorance. I also like to remind myself that sometimes things and people just don’t make sense to me and I have to accept it for that. The more time I try to figure out the “whys” of a situation the more frustrated I become. Instead I smile, grit my teeth and say “I’m sorry you feel that way” and walk away. Truth is, I really am sorry people feel that way. How miserable they must be. But I won’t allow them to make me miserable as well. I will keep my head up high and I always drive on the high road…always.

For anyone dealing with a break up or just a pain in the ass in general…remember to smile and threw your clenched teeth say “I’m sorry you feel that way” and walk away. Don’t give in to the madness going on in their head. It is just not worth it. You are better than that and deserve to be happy and not expose yourself to such a negative atmosphere!


  1. I love it Amy! My ex hates me still to this day and I forgave him years ago for tormenting me all those years. I honestly don't understand why it's so damn hard to be civil and you're right, grow the fuck up!

  2. It seems like I hear a new story every day of how people turn evil after a break-up. It truly amazes me and makes me gag.

  3. Amy, you'd love the arrangement Rob and I have. He's Logan's dad. He walked out on Logan and I when he was only 11 days old. We didn't see him again until Logan was 5. I went out of my way to find him, he did not come back into our lives by choice. Since then he and I have agreed to be so nice to one another that sometimes I can tell we're faking it. But it's not just for our benefit of course. I agree that it's always best to be civil and in my situation is better to be even more.